a rainy day

7 am: Alarm goes off. Cuddle a little deeper under the down comforter (soooo cozy) and then roll out of bed. Rush downstairs and half-heartedly do jumping jacks, burpees, sit-ups, and bicycle crunches. Decide against a second round and half-heartedly do some easy yoga instead. Juno comes down halfway through sun salutation and tries to sit under me while I'm in downward facing dog. Fall on top of her, yell at her, and then go upstairs to wake up Tempe and Helena.

7:30: Cajole Tempe and Helena out of bed by promising to feed them breakfast before doing their hair. Dish up toast and granola, toast and oatmeal, and toast. And then some granola. And then milk. And then two glasses of orange juice. Make them promise to unload the dishwasher when they are done eating.

7:45: Kiss Jason goodbye and have a quick family prayer. Go upstairs and get dressed and make the bed. Look, the master bedroom magically looks neat and tidy now.

8 am: Call down to the girls to see if they're done eating/unloading the dishwasher yet. Find that Tempe and Helena are both sitting on the couch reading. Remind them that I'm not going to drive them to school if they're running late.

8:10: Brush Tempe's hair. Brush Helena's hair (lots of screaming). Brush Juno's hair. 

8:20: Tell Tempe and Helena to get their socks, shoes, and jackets on. Look out the window and realize it's raining harder than I've ever seen before. Promise to drive them to school after all.

8:30: Wake Pearl up. Hover on the covered front steps with Tempe, Helena, Juno, Pearl, and Dylan (next door neighbor) for a few minutes, trying to decide if the rain will slow at all in the next few minutes. Dash out to the car. Get soaked while trying to buckle Juno and Pearl into their carseats.

8:35: Drive the kids to school. Come home. Get soaked while unbuckling Juno and Pearl.

8:40: Taylor arrives.

8:45: Feed Pearl breakfast. Do the breakfast dishes while she's eating. Give Juno and Taylor washable markers and let them draw on the glass french doors in the kitchen. Scarf down a piece of peanut butter toast. Share the crust with Pearl.

9 am: Give Juno and Taylor each a letters worksheet with watercolor paints and stickers. Make bread dough. Make granola while bread dough is rising. Wipe watercolor paint off the counters.

9:20: Read stack of library books on the couch. Allow Pearl to carry the crust of the toast around the house to keep her happy. 

9:40: Start the craft I've planned for the day: four seasons trees using the kids' hands as the trees. Trace around Juno and Taylor's hands four times each. Give them gluesticks, construction paper, and tissue paper to decorate the trees for each season. Give Pearl a cracker to keep her from crying about not getting a gluestick. Bravely sprinkle sugar over the glue on the winter trees. Spill some on the floor. 

9:30: Vacuum the living room and great room. Remember the bread dough and go to the kitchen to shape it. While I'm in the kitchen, remember the granola in the oven and get it out before it burns (whew).

10 am: Take the kids upstairs and tell them they can jump on the couch in my room while I do the laundry. Start first of three loads of laundry. Put the bread in the oven.

10:15: Bundle all three kids up in socks, rainboots, and raincoats and give them umbrellas. Open the garage and let them play in the rain while I sit on an old chair that I meant to take to DI a year ago. Hey, this old chair is kind of nice to have in the garage. Maybe I'll keep it after all.

10:30: Rush into the house to take the bread out of the oven just in the nick of time.

11 am: After 45 minutes of playing in the rain/fixing their bikes with my tools, we finally come inside. Turn on fire and read more library books.

11:20: Let's have lunch! Give everyone lunch and run upstairs to switch the laundry. 

11:40: Lunch is over. Vacuum the living room and great room.

11:45: Hand out toys from the playroom. Try to put one away and accidentally pull the entire shelving unit off the wall. All the toys in the playroom are now on the floor of the playroom. Close the door so no one can get into it. Break up fight between Juno and Taylor over their toys.

12 pm: Break up fight between Juno and Taylor over their toys.

12:15: Put Pearl down for an early nap.

12:30: Break up fight between Juno and Taylor over their toys.

12:40: Rousing game of Uno with Juno and Taylor. Force Juno to practice her speech sounds every time she plays a number card. Find that allowing her, nay, encouraging her to say "poop" and "peepee" is a great way to get her to practice the p sound.

1 pm: Read more library books.

1:15: Taylor's mom is here. Bye, Taylor! See you tomorrow! Remember to find her cup and art project, but forget to send her lunchbox home.

1:20: Turn on the tv for Juno. Scarf down a quick PB&H sandwich and a handful of peanuts.

1:30: Settle down on the couch with the computer. I'm going to find a recipe for an ice cream cake for Tempe's birthday, find some great Christmas gift ideas for the kids, and do some travel research for a trip I'm planning.

1:40: Binge watch 2 1/2 episodes of Parenthood instead.

3:25: Tell Juno to turn off the tv and switch the laundry. Realize that it is once again raining and school just got out. Wake up Pearl and get soaked trying to buckle Juno and Pearl into their carseats.

3:30: Park half a block from school and wait for Tempe and Helena. And wait. And wait. And wait. Finally see them. Helena throws backpack in car and asks to go to friend's house. I say yes.

3:50: Offer each child a graham cracker for an after school snack. Allow Pearl to wander around the house with hers to keep her happy.

3:55: Send Tempe to Activity Days. Remind her to take her umbrella. 

4 pm: Start dinner (creamy chicken and wild rice soup). Hold Pearl, who is very fussy, on my lap while I talk to my mom on the phone for 15 minutes. Pearl simultaneously wants to be held and to sit with the cat and is very upset she can't do both.

4:45: Tempe comes home. Tell her to start her homework. Switch the laundry. Do more dinner stuff while Pearl holds on to my legs, crying. Give her a cracker to keep her happy.

5 pm: Helena arrives home mad because she had to walk (it wasn't raining this time). Allow her to change into her pajamas and lay in her bed for 15 minutes.

5:15: Convince Helena to come downstairs and start her homework. Allow Tempe to type her spelling words and count it for both spelling practice and typing practice. Wrap a present for my niece. Package up some bread and soup for my next door neighbors.

5:30: It's raining again. Get soaked while taking dinner next door. Jason arrives home. Put him in charge of Pearl (crying again). Vacuum the living room and great room.

5:45: Eat dinner. Tell Tempe she can't hide a book on her lap because we want to be able to talk to each other as a family. Only one thing spills tonight!

6:10: Clean up dinner. Tell Tempe, Helena, and Juno to get shoes and jackets on. Pearl also tries to put her shoes on and cries when I won't help.

6:20: Take Tempe, Helena, and Juno to my niece's birthday party. Pearl cries when she can't come (she has a cold).

6:30-7:30: Tell Tempe, Helena, and Juno that they can only have one piece of cake, not to jump on their aunt and uncle's furniture, they can't go outside in the rain, ok fine, they can go outside in the rain but they can't come back in, ok fine, they can come back in if they take off their shoes, etc.

7:45: Get home and start bedtime. Put Juno to bed on the couch in my room because Pearl is already asleep. Jason reads Percy Jackson to Tempe and Helena while I help them pick out clothes.

8 pm: Go downstairs to make lunch. There's still one serving of soup in the pot on the stove but no tupperware containers. Perfect, I can put it in Tempe's thermos and send it to school for her. Hear a giant crash and run upstairs to discover Juno fell off the toilet in the bathroom. Put her back to bed on the couch in my room and sit in the hallway reading Harry Potter.

8:25: Go back downstairs to finish packing lunches. Put Tempe's homework folder in her backpack. Put Helena's homework folder in her backpack. 

8:30: Binge watch The Mindy Project. Send some texts concerning Tempe's family birthday party re: when to have it?

10 pm: Get ready for bed and read Harry Potter under the down comforter (sooooo cozy). 

10:40: Fall asleep listening to the rain on the roof. Not a bad day.

disasters in marriage

We've been married for 10 years.

And we have four kids.

And we have not had a successful couple only getaway in all that time.

Notice I say successful?

We have gone away for the weekend three times in ten years.

Each time worse than the time before.

Attempt #1: A few months before our fifth anniversary. I scored a room at the Anniversary Inn in Salt Lake for super cheap, so we decided to celebrate early. We had limited means and so we decided to skip dinner at a nice restauraunt. Instead we went to McDonalds, the worst of the worst. After "dinner", we went back to the hotel and enjoyed our room. It was kitschy. It was fun. It was different. The bed seemed relatively comfortable.

About an hour after we fell asleep, something woke us up. The people in the room next door were also enjoying their bed... loudly. Yeah, that's understandable at a place like the Anniversary Inn. But it went on.... and on.... and on.... and on. So. Loud. We actually ended up leaving at three in the morning. 

Attempt #2: Jason's sweet parents felt so bad for us about our first getaway that they gave us a night at a hotel later that year. Being procrastinators, we didn't get around to using it until right before it expired, at which point we had a six month old baby in a body cast. I was a zombie during Juno's time in her body cast because she woke up every hour on the hour of every night of the entire six weeks she was in her cast. Our night at the hotel was no different, so I spent much of the night struggling to nurse a pink block of cement while also trying to keep her from crying constantly and disturbing the other hotel guests. Not terrible, but really the furthest thing from a relaxing night without kids.

Attempt #3: Earlier this year we celebrated our 10th anniversary. Plans were made. A restaurant was chosen (an expensive restaurant). I was again a zombie because I again had a baby that was a terrible sleeper (this time it was 11 month old Pearl, who still woke up 2-3 times a night). I wanted nothing more than a solid night's sleep with a leisurely morning spent lounging in bed, watching tv, and eating a delicious breakfast delivered right to our door. What could go wrong?

Dinner tasted good. The restaurant was fun. The hotel was nice. 

But later, after we fell asleep, one of us got sick and was up for several hours... and the other couldn't fall back asleep until after four in the morning. Then breakfast was delivered at 8:30. So I ended up with even less sleep on my kid-free getaway than I did at home.

After our 10th annniversary disaster, we promised ourselves a do-over. Nothing fancy this time--low pressure--just the two of us, relaxing and spending time together. Dare we make a fourth attempt??

Backyard treehouse

I grew up on the east coast (North Carolina until I was 16, then Pennsylvania; now my parents live in Tennessee) so trees are important to me. Like, really important.

I spent my childhood playing in the woods behind my house. I had my own little tree fort that I built with scraps of plywood and nails I stole from my dad and I loved playing and reading in it.

 When we were house hunting, I knew that I needed to find a yard with trees in it--easier said than done in Utah! One of the things that made me fall in love with not only our house but our whole neighborhood is how many mature trees there are on our street. We have seven large, shady, beautiful trees in our backyard and one of the very first things we did after moving in was hang a couple of swings from one. We've spent many happy hours on those swings!

A few years after we moved in, I built a little platform in the trees with a slide coming down from it. 

It was fine for reading or maybe eating lunch...

Tempe and Helena in 2011 at the original enchanted treehouse

But it was small. Like, one kid at a time small. We talked about enlarging it for years but it was just too big a project for me to take on by myself. 

I love the look and idea of natural playgrounds and playscapes. I think kids are already drawn to incorporating natural elements into their play--rocks, treestumps, logs and such. I also love how charming natural playspaces are and how easily they can blend into existing landscaping. So when my dad came out for business last week and asked what project I wanted him to do while he was here, we jumped on the chance to get our dream treehouse built!

We built the treehouse frame out of redwood 2x6s and 2x8s, attached to the trees with lag bolts and redwood 4x4 posts. Just like the original, there's a narrow platform between the cluster of five trees where the slide comes down, and then there's a larger platform off to the side. It's about 6 ft square--plenty of room for lots of friends to play together!

I splurged and used Veranda composite decking for the deck and I'm so glad I did. It's so nice that I don't have to worry about kids getting splinters or any upkeep! Definitely worth the extra $40 (yeah--it was only $40 more than using lumber. So not even much of a splurge!)

The three wooden pennants have been in Tempe and Helena's bedroom for a few years, but they are perfect in the treehouse instead. I found a string of solar lanterns at Wal-Mart to hang in the trees. Treehouse + lanterns softly twinkling at night = perfection.

Let this be my public proclamation of THANKS to Grandpa K, aka Big Kahuna for his 12+ hours of work to get this thing framed for us. We love you!

Back to school!

We've been back in school for two days and wow, is it hectic! I always forget just how much work elementary school is for the mom the kids. 

Tempe is in third grade and Helena is in second. I love their style, don't you? Helena is our style guru and she insisted on wearing the glasses. Perfect for the first day of school!

Kids being able to walk to school is kind of a big deal to me. Like, if we were house hunting and we found the perfect house but the kids couldn't walk to school, it would be a deal breaker. I can't stand the thought of having to drive every. single. day. #aintnobodygottimeforthat

So far they are happy with their teachers and classes! Here's to another year.

Ready or not...

School starts for my two oldest tomorrow!

I am not sure how I feel. Part of me is sad, because we had such a fun summer doing so many neat things and I love having them home with me. Plus, I will be honest, I am totally not looking forward to the drudgery of homework, making lunches, getting kids up early, hairstyles, bathing my children nightly every other night hopefully at least twice a week.

On the other hand, I loved going back to school as a child and I still love it as a parent. I love the fresh start and a chance to get into a routine once more. I especially love the kick in the pants it gives me to keep our house organized and tidy after a summer of letting everything go!

Here are some of the things that I do to help keep our school days running smoothly!

Lunch basket

Making lunches is definitely one of those things that I am awesome at during the first half of the year and not so awesome at later on. But this lunch basket helps me power through the end of the school year. In it, I keep cookie cutters of different shapes and sizes, food markers, straws, small jars with lids, our favorite lunchboxes, and a sweet letter Tempe wrote to me about how she loves the "fun lunches" I make to give me some inspiration.

Garage mudroom

  

Our house doesn't have a mudroom, so I set up a little mudroom area in our garage. The kids keep their coats, backpacks, boots, and mittens/gloves/hats out here so it doesn't clutter up my house. Plus, in the winter they can leave their wet and muddy boots out here!

Mom command station

We also don't have an office in our house, but my desk fits just perfectly in this little nook next to the couch. I keep all of our school supplies in one of the drawers, my bills in the organizer, and the computer and printer here (the printer fits on the windowseat right behind the desk so it's out of the way!)

Wall of Fame

I hung a clipboard for each of my kids on the wall in the kitchen where I can put all their schoolwork and things that need to be sent back. I review it every night while they're doing homework so I can keep up with the flood of papers that come home from school with them.

What do you do to keep organized?

love where you live

Hello!

Isn't it nice when you love where you live?

I know not every situation is ideal, but I do think it's possible to find something good about anywhere you end up.

This is coming from someone who has fond memories, yes, fond, of living in Laramie, Wyoming, where it was regularly 0 degrees and the wind never. stopped. blowing.

But the SLC area is easy to love. 

One of my favorite things about where we live is how much free stuff there is to do. I am all about free!!! It seems like as soon as I think we've exhausted the awesomeness of Salt Lake, I discover something new.

Today we went to The Train Shoppe in South Salt Lake. It's the biggest model train store in the area, but the cool part is in back, where there are several model trains set up that you can "drive" for 25 cents. My girls are watching the Hogwarts Express right here!

I really cannot do this place justice. The back room is all wild west themed and there are three party rooms--a hotel, a saloon, and a jail. In addition to the quarter operated model trains, there's also a train that kids can ride on and shoot at targets for $2. That wasn't open today, so we haven't ridden it, but we have plans to go back in October when it's decorated for Halloween.

If you have a kid that's into trains or miniatures, this place is awesome! In fact, I think pretty much any kid will think it's great. Heck, I thought it was great!

After the train shop, we decided to look for the SLC Pepper mural. It's just a block or two south of the Gateway, so easy to find. I'll admit I'm not a Beatles fan, but this mural is awesome. I have dreams of someday taking my kids on a SLC mural tour--maybe next summer?! 

So after the mural, Helena was so thirsty that we decided to go to the Planetarium on our way back to our car so we could get a drink of water. The Planetarium is awesome, so of course we had to hang out there for a while. By the time we finished there, we were all hungry, so we headed out to the taco stand right outside and got some super yum tacos.

Salt Lake City pride!

The family benefit project

Last Christmas we started a new family tradition.

It began with my desire to make December a month of giving and focus on loving and serving others, along with the excitement of Christmas and all that comes with it. We decided to hold a hot chocolate stand and bake sale and donate 100% of our proceeds to a local organization that disperses funds to several charities.

We had such a wonderful experience that this year Jason and I sat down and decided to have a year-long family benefit project. We chose a charity that we feel strongly about and set a modest goal to meet throughout the year--not by simply putting aside cash out of our budget every month, but by working together as a family to raise the money.

We could have simply budgeted an amount every month to put towards our goal, but we want to have an experience as a family; we want to teach our children the joy of giving back, working hard, and achieving a goal in a concrete way. By making this a year-long project, we're hoping to instill in them a lifelong desire to serve others.

If you're interested in doing a similar project with your family, here are some ideas to help you get started:

• Choose a charity. There are so many wonderful organizations to choose from! Make sure to do your research into how the organization disperses funds. GuideStar is a good start. Choose something that you feel strongly about and are passionate about. We chose a local charity because we want to show our children the impact that can be made in our own community.
• Set a goal. It's better to set a lower goal and surpass it than to set a lofty one and not meet it. Be realistic about how much money you can raise.

The next step is the fun part--find ways to raise money! We have had success with all of these ideas:

• Decluttering the house and selling things on Facebook yardsale groups
• Selling homemade giant cinnamon rolls (I took orders in advance for Easter weekend; I did keep 50% of the proceeds due to the huge time committment in making 15 giant cinnamon rolls--however, the cost of ingredients came from my 50%, so I didn't really make any money) 

• Selling homemade "birdseed biscuits" to hang in the trees for the birds to eat.
• Bake sales or lemonade stands--We host a bake sale every August and every December. 

• Find small businesses or self-employed friends who will match what you raise. This is a great way to get more bang for your buck! When we did our bake sale, we had a neighbor approach us and offer to match our proceeds 100%. Wow! You don't have to ask for a 100% match; every little bit helps. 

When you've decided how to raise money, don't forget to advertise. I advertised our bake sales on Facebook yard sale groups and our neighborhood Facebook group, making sure to name the charity and the percentage of the proceeds that would be donated. After our first bake sale, I tagged our local news station on Instagram and we were invited to present our money in person at the news studio, have a tour, and do an interview for a human interest story (it never aired, because I am so incredibly awkward on camera for unknown reasons).

The most important thing is to keep your children involved in the whole process. My kids make posters, help bake cookies, go door to door taking orders, and man the stands. They know we are raising money for our chosen charity. They know who the charity helps. We talk about it all the time and it's become a real part of our family life. We count our blessings more, we feel satisfied with what we have more, we have more empathy for others, and we have a stronger desire to serve and love others. It has been such a wonderful experience in our family.

Please comment and tell me what you have done to encourage charitable giving in your family!